Hello I Am

Kate Witteveen

Author of the book Why Being Good Can be Bad for You!

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Being Good Can be Bad for You

Are you so focused on being “good” that you forget to be kind to yourself?

Do you make decisions based on what you think others expect, rather than what you really want?

Are you striving to meet expectations that are unrealistic, and that you wouldn’t expect anyone else to achieve?

Is there a nasty voice inside your head that is constantly pointing out where you are going wrong?

Do you feel like you are stressed out, burnt out or overwhelmed with all the things you are trying to do, and feeling like you aren’t doing any of them properly?

If so, welcome to the tyranny of the good, where perfectionists, high achievers and people pleasers find themselves stuck in situations that look right but feel wrong.

I believe many highly capable and accomplished people feel trapped and limited because they make decisions based on what they think is “good”, rather than what is best for them.

When you are trying to be all things to all people, the first person to be forgotten is you.

This means that, despite your best intentions, you feel like you are falling short. It is hard to achieve perfection when you are running on empty. Trust me. I’ve tried and failed!

Hi! I’m Kate

I’m a proud Mum of three gorgeous kids, wife of one handsome husband, author, coach, facilitator, and recovering perfectionist.

According to the Myers Briggs, I am an INFJ, which is the rarest personality type. I’m not sure if that makes me interesting or weird, but it does mean that:

  • I love people, but not too many of them at once.
  • I am quiet but not necessarily shy.
  • I enjoy deep conversations, but small talk makes me uncomfortable.
  • I like to think about things in detail but make decisions quickly.
  • I fall somewhere between a nerd and an intuit. I value evidence but sometimes know things without knowing how I know them.

A few years ago, I experienced a significant burnout. A stop-you-in-your-tracks, you-have-nothing-left-to-give kind of burnout. Cue career pivot and existential crisis.

Trying to figure out who I was when I wasn’t an academic anymore was hard. And scary.

BUT it took me on a journey of self-reflection and discovery for which I am incredibly grateful.